I wanted to make a post about this because I think this is something a lot of people don’t understand.
Sexual non-romantic relationships doesn’t necessarily mean a frivolous, shallow, or “one night stand” type of relationship. It certainly can and some allosexual aromantics enjoy that, but I see a lot of people assuming that allosexual aromantics don’t care about their sexual relationships. I can say that they do (or at least, some do), but in a different way than those experiencing romantic attraction.
I think it’s helpful if in this community, we made use of an important word: attachment.
Attachment simply meaning a fondness for a person or thing: what you feel towards friends, family, pets, etc. In my experience, when I’ve felt sexual attraction towards a friend, I felt attachment and incredible fondness for them, but no romantic attraction. But still I cared about them deeply as a friend, wished for their well-being, fretted over them, etc. I felt the same way I did towards my other friends (and I tend to experience friendships very deeply), but with sexual attraction added on.
I think a lot of people tend to assume that if you’re attached to someone and also sexually attracted to someone, that equates to romantic attraction. That is not the case and I think making the distinction between romantic attraction and attachment is important, and helpful in understanding a lot of things such as the difference between QPs and romantic relationships, as well as the difference between simply intense friendship feelings and romantic attraction. Romantic attraction to me comes down to limerence and wanting to do romantic-coded actions with a person - attachment is more to do with a feeling of wishing for someone’s well-being and wanting to be around them, which can certainly happen with romantic attraction, but isn’t the only factor.